Happy new year lovely readers. First of all, thank you so much for making 2019 a terrific year for LifeHacks With DrC. Thanks to your tremendous support we made giant strides towards beating the frightening drop that hits most blogs after a tough first year. Hopefully, with your continuous support, we can take this blog a notch higher and escape obscurity. What rules are you living by this year?

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On a personal note, 2019 was such a steep learning curve for me. Finding that elusive balance between juggling a demanding job and trying to catch deadlines to write blog posts was pretty crazy, to say the least.

On the 1st day of 2020, I took out my pen to check the X sign on most of my personal goals in the past year. While the feeling of not reaching goals totally sucks, it wasn’t all that bad in the end. I hope it was quite a good year in your world.

REACHING GOALS IN A DIFFICULT YEAR

Talk of looking at the brighter side in the worst of situations, last year, I hit one of my personal goals-reading at least 15 books- beating the previous year by 6! That in itself was a big win. Not only did I become a less shitty person but took big steps towards reaching my potential as a writer and a medic.

In 2018, Ernest Becker’s famous book, The Denial Of Death rewired a larger part of my conscience, culminating in a blog post(The Denial Of Death- An Uncle Ebo Whyte Story) that threw this blog into the limelight. The awesome review from Uncle Ebo Whyte was definitely the highlight of that year.

A total mind-fuck of a book. A must-read for everyone!

Strangely last year, it was less of a celebrity giving a thumbs-up review but more of me finally shedding off my nice guy(people pleaser syndrome). That, I have to confess wasn’t an easy transition. In a world that’s coercing you to take the path of the status-quo, reading Robert Glover’s No More Mr. Nice Guy was my “Road To Damascus” moment. The book gave me that big mental-O, the drive and will to take the brutal decision of risking being disliked for the greater good of protecting my peace and getting what I deserve/want.

In short, I quit being a nice guy, realized I needed to embrace the fact that I was work-in-progress thus, the much-aversed pain period was worth going through to get better at whatever I did.

Add reading this book to your resolutions this year.

20 RULES TO LIVE BY THIS YEAR

On page 155 of this incredible book is a 30 bullet-points list of rules that are sure to liberate your inner man and set you on a path to happiness, fulfilment and the desire to push through adversity. While applying these rules aren’t as easy as tasting mojito on a Cuban beach, I will implore you to write them down and stick them in a place where you can read them out every day.

Feel free to personalize them to give them life.

  1. If it frightens you, do it.
  2. No matter what happens, you will handle it.
  3. Put yourself first
  4. You are the only person on this planet responsible for your needs, wants, and happiness.
  5. Learn to say “no.”
  6. If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got.
  7. If what you are doing isn’t working, try something different.
  8. Let people help you
  9. Ask for what you want
  10. Be clear and direct
  11. Be honest with yourself.
  12. Do not let anyone treat you badly. No one. Ever
  13. Don’t tolerate the intolerable — ever
  14. Stop blaming. Victims never succeed.
  15. Accept the consequences of your actions
  16. Be good to yourself
  17. Give yourself room to fail. There are no mistakes, only learning experiences
  18. Don’t make excuses
  19. Do it now
  20. Think “abundance.”
20 rules to live by
Right next to my dressing mirror. A day never goes by without repeating these.

PARTING THOUGHTS

What is a society without rules? Chaotic. Just imagine what a fulfilling life will be like to you. Now, take that extra step with these 20 rules to become that badass version of yourself who takes responsibility for making the kind of life one deserves becoming a reality.

Repeat these rules every morning, put them into action and watch a much better life unravel before your eyes. It isn’t going to be easy but plough through and stick to them.

Cheers to a great and fulfilling year. Don’t forget to tell someone about this blog, share and leave a comment below.

Till next time, DrC.