As I type this post, I really am emotional now. It isn’t that I am overly excited about hitting puberty and growing an inch taller or growing pubic hair or…shhh increasing in girth (stop thinking silly). Well, I am way past puberty.
I turned 25!

Picture Courtesy Nick Stephenson (unsplash)

My 25 years here on Earth has been quite a remarkable journey. There have been success stories, struggles, failures, heartbreaks, disappointments, and loss.
I probably won’t stand the chance to win a Golden Globe Award for the “Most tragic life story” category. Because, for starters, my parents didn’t crash in an African jungle, leaving me to be raised by apes to become a hairy professional Tarzan, neither did I begin life being dumped in a bin after an unplanned pregnancy.
I was born to lovely parents with flaws just like everyone else has with the right to learn, grow and make an impact on society.

Today I share with you seven life lessons I’ve learnt so far on my journey.

LESSON 1: YOU CAN’T HAVE IT ALL

I know it’s quite hard to accept this truth. We are bombarded with the crème de la crème of life. Fast cars, hotter girlfriends with outrageous bums, make more babies, last longer in bed etc.

In the end, we are stuck in a perpetual loop of “My life lacks something”.

But the truth is, you can’t have everything you want in life, you definitely will lack or suck at something.
It is the reason, I don’t run this blog on the technical aspect. Someone does and I am completely fine with my deficiency in programming skills. It is for this reason, the celebrities who we assume have everything have shitty marriages and relationships.
You can’t be perfect in every aspect of your life. Some parts will definitely stink.

LESSON 2: STOP TRYING TO BE PERFECT

I remember one particular point in my life when I tried so hard to be liked by everyone. I had to fake smiles, be extremely polite and tried never to hurt the people’s feelings.
I was so obsessed with being conscious of how I looked to the outside world. But the more I did this, people never seemed to appreciate the detailed efforts. Surprisingly I came across as a weirdo.
I realize our weaknesses and flaws make us unique people.

LESSON 3:YOU ARE OKAY

It is incredible how much our life seems to suck in comparison with others. Why does everyone seem to have a perfect life while you are stuck thinking of why on Earth you are broke, don’t have white teeth or a submissive wife? Truth is everyone is going through some shitty circumstances in their lives.

I had admired one local Instagram celebrity from afar. You watch her photos and just admire her grace, unique sense of style and beauty. I one day chanced on her in real life and had a chit-chat. She was nothing like who I pictured her to be. She had scars, crappy diction and a bit shallow and superficial. Woow! Think of all the girls out there drooling over her life when in reality she was a scam.

Your life may seem like it is a mess, but trust me you are okay.

LESSON 4: FACE YOUR FEARS, STOP HIDING YOUR FLAWS

Yes, as much as scary this is, I have learnt it is perfectly fine. We live in a judgmental world. Where people won’t bat an eyelid to shed light on your bow legs, misaligned teeth, flat ass etc. But you see, trying to hide your weakness or flaw is in itself a form of misery. The more beautiful you want to become, the uglier you feel about yourself. Vulnerability isn’t a bad thing.

LESSON 5:YOU NEED OTHER PEOPLE

I have to confess there is only one person I know of who achieved an outrageous feat on his own. Enter the script-Sampson. Yeap! he killed 1000 Philistines on his own. No, wait! With the jawbone of a donkey. So yeah, you catch the drift? The biblical badass even needed help.
Without you reading my stuff, this blog will be non-existent and will be a stupid investment of time.

samson
Not all superheroes wear a cape! Meet Sampson the Israelite.

You will need help to get to the top. Stop trying to be a lone ranger.

Drc

LESSON 6: BE WILLING TO LET SOME PEOPLE GO

Fake friends, negative people, toxic relationships… Just let them go! I read a lovely blog post on this lesson.

“YOU ARE ONLY GOING TO BE AS GOOD AS THE PEOPLE YOU SURROUND YOURSELF WITH…SO BE BRAVE ENOUGH TO LET GO OF THOSE WHO KEEP WEIGHING YOU DOWN”


Letswryte

You should read it too. “Mask off”

Lesson 7: IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT TO BEGIN

I know you do have dreams of starting something amazing, be it a business or starting a career. Yet, you probably are stuck in your sofa binging on Netflix and browsing the latest HD porn. The pressure of having it right the first time is maddening.
I still remember how it took me 3 months to start this blog. I wrote over 20 drafts to write: The Beginning Of Something Beautiful”.

Then I realized, hey, it just doesn’t have to be perfect the first time. Give space for growth, after all, Rome wasn’t built in a day.

THE END! No really wait for the credits. It’s a Marvel blog!


Hey buddy, 7 I guess is the number for perfection. But screw perfection! I really would love to hear from you.
Do you have any tough cold lessons you’ve learned in your life to share with me on this special Silver Jubilee? I really would be grateful.

~Cheers, DRC