Right at the top of everyone’s to-be-list screams ‘I want to be happy’. Fuck yeah, the holy grail of all wishes. The possibilities of making that happen seem to be infinite. Yet, not many can actually say they are truly happy. Tragic! Could it be most of us don’t understand what happiness is or the ways to ruin the little happiness we have left in our lives are devastatingly easy?
I wrote a sexy write-up on my idea of happiness. You can read that when you are bored.
LET OTHERS DEFINE WHAT SUCCESS IS TO YOU
The formula ‘success = wealth’ is where all the madness begins. Time and time again we are convinced being labelled successful means having more than enough cash to pull off a Dan Bilzerian kind of life, being famous, having our blog posts or YouTube videos viewed over 10 million times or running a hugely profitable business. The tragedy is, those who have these don’t seem to be satisfied and very few reach this perceived idea of success.
We are pretty much dissatisfied because passing that exam, raising a child, finally mastering the balls to ask that girl out on a date, overcoming your fears and doing your first public speaking, spending quality time with family etc aren’t publicized as “mainstream success”.
Could it be your idea of success isn’t even yours in the first place? Well, this blog post is to teach you how to ruin your happiness, so keep labelling yourself “less successful” for not living an idea of success that isn’t yours in the first place.
WORRYING ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS
Here’s the tough pill to swallow- problems never end. They simply morph from one form to another. Ever heard of bad problems and good problems? Here is the thing, you have two choices: take steps to solve them or worry incessantly about them.
The sweetness of the latter option is that worrying only magnifies your problems. It keeps you in the perpetual state of seeing just how helpless you are. A potent drug for unhappiness.
If relationships and astrophysics were to be ranked based on difficulty, surely relationships rank higher. It’s quite obvious anything that involves human emotions is pretty much fucked up. Relationships are hard. It is with this insight, we are vulnerable to finding and allowing just about anything that promises quick fixes to our love lives. That’s when porn steps in.
How bad is watching porn?
From tipping into an unhealthy addiction that could be a big struggle recovering from to increased levels of depression, porn isn’t a brilliant quick fix to sneak into your life.
Interestingly, a newly-wed friend of mine recently asked me if it was okay to watch porn with his wife. I told him it was a bad idea without having reasons to back up my counsel. Turns out the research on pornography consumption by couples is pretty explosive.
Let’s ruin your happiness, ignore all of this!!!
MONITOR THE NEWS ALL THE TIME
Being current with issues relating to the world around us seems to be a priority these days. The feeling of being left out downright sucks hence, many of us constantly refresh our news feed, keep the Tv on 24/7 and listen to the news on the go. But here is the catch: the kind of news and visuals that dominate the headlines can be extremely dangerous to our mental health.
You and I can testify to the dark mental cloud Covid-19 news reportage created when the pandemic started. At a point, I was convinced humanity was going to be wiped out by a fuckface virus whose name grandma could barely pronounce.
NEW RESEARCH IS TROUBLING
Recent studies from the American Psychological Association and other sources made some quite revealing discoveries:
But hey, ignore all the research on news consumption and do the exact opposite of the famous biblical quote in Philippians 4:6.
You made it to the end of this irony of a post! Glad you have few tips under your sleeves to wipe out enough happiness from your life. Do these with a frightening passion.
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