Before I quench your curiosity’s hard-on about what this post is about, let us observe a minute silence for Marvel Comics legend, Stan Lee who passed away at age 95 in 2018.

Stan Lee: A Life In Pictures (Photo Credits: Unsplash, Walldesk, Feelgrafix)

I will try not to piss a bunch of DC Comics fans but let’s call a spade a spade- DC Comics has less epic on-screen moments. Top of my head I could name the stadium destruction scene in The Dark Knight Rises as the best I’ve seen so far. But damn it, if you had to make three picks of amazeballs moments from the Marvel Universe what would yours be? In no particular order my picks are:

And this orgasmic tweet of Thor’s Epic entry into Wakanda!

In all, Stan Lee has given us amazing fond memories down the years. However, there is one particular superhero love story that didn’t make it to the TV screens. A story which inspired this blog post and could change the way you approach love forever – how he met his wife Joan Lee.

THE GREATEST HOW DID YOU MEET THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE

Stan Lee shares an intimate kiss with Wife Joan Lee.
Stan Sharing an intimate moment with wife, Joan Lee. Photo Credit: newsx.com

Stan and Joan were married for 70 years until her passing in 2017 aged 93 before Stan passed on the following year. Together the couple transformed pop-culture to unthinkable levels blessing us with several amazing cameos. If Marvel is what it is today, it owes a lot to this love story that almost never was.

DID YOU KNOW?

Stan Lee asked his wife Joan to marry him the very day he asked her out to lunch?

A LOVE STORY THAT ALMOST NEVER WAS

“Dear Jack” the letter addressed. Stan Lee was mortified. Not in any other dimension was his name called Jack. His chances of getting the girl of his dreams were slimmer than ever. If time elapsed, he risked losing his dream to some rich cowboy named Jack he presumed. He had to act fast.

Ooops… The story doesn’t start from here…Rewind

In a 2016 interview with the Hollywood Reporter, Lee recounted how he met his wife Joan:

“Any kid who draws, if he’s a guy and he isn’t gay, he draws beautiful women. There was one girl I drew: one body and face and hair. It was my idea of what a girl should be. The perfect woman. And when I got out of the Army, a cousin of mine said, ‘Stan, there’s this really pretty girl named Betty. I think you’d like her. Why don’t you go over and ask her to lunch?’ I went up to this place. Betty didn’t answer the door, but Joan did. I took one look at her. She was the girl I had been drawing all my life. She said, ‘May I help you?’ I think I said ‘I love you.’ I proposed to her at lunch.”


With Great Power: The Stan Lee Story/The Lee Family trust

Re-read that! He had been drawing her all his life! But hold on a sec. There was one big problem. Joan had been married barely a little over a year prior.

What would you do if you found the love of your life and she was married?

Crazy isn’t it? Before we jumped to what Stan did next, there was a brilliant Cypriot sculptor’s story Stan Lee took a script out of. His name was Pygmalion!

LIKE PYGMALION
Pygmalion!

In ancient Greece lived a Cypriot sculptor who had god-like talents. He would carve out life-like statues of beautiful women to the minutest of details. According to Ovid’s narrative, after seeing Propoetides(daughters of Propoetus) he had “lost interest in women”. They didn’t satisfy the dream kind of woman he wanted to be with. He decided to carve the woman of his dreams out of ivory. The statue was so beautiful and realistic he fell in love with it.

In time, Aphrodite‘s(Greek goddess of beauty and love) festival day came, and Pygmalion made offerings at the altar of Aphrodite. There, too scared to admit his desire, he quietly wished for a bride who would be “the living likeness of my ivory girl.” When he returned home, he kissed his ivory statue and found that its lips felt warm. He kissed it again and found that the ivory had lost its hardness. Aphrodite had granted Pygmalion’s wish.

Pygmalion married the ivory sculpture which changed to a woman under Aphrodite’s blessing.

PYGMALION & GALATEA ©ELISABETH CAREN

Do you find incredible similarities between Stan Lee’s love story and that of Pygmalion? Hold in your answer a wee bit longer. Now let’s finish the Stan Lee story.

Not to be deterred, Stan sent Joan to Reno to get a quick divorce so the two of them could be married. From several interviews, Joan explained, she got married to her former husband as a revenge plot to spite a guy she fell in love so much with; who ended up betraying her to marry someone else. There was no love in there and she was bored as fuck. Then came Stan Lee who exploded her life with a charming personality.

The rest they say is history. And oh my! What a history it has been for two beloved people who have inspired so many and brought joy to countless others.

THREE IMPORTANT LESSONS TO LEARN FROM STAN LEE AND PYGMALION.

1. A GOOD MENTAL PICTURE IS A BRILLIANT START

If you are married and reading this kudos to you. Chances are you probably might have dug deep to find your partner. Fair enough. However, if you are still single then this lesson will be of utmost importance. Why are you still single by the way? If I am making the right guess, there is a 99.99% chance you reading this aren’t a monk. If that holds true then, I have a bit of a surprise for you! Studies have shown a large percentage of people out there are still single because they suffer from “paralysis of choice” or what I call “the cookie-whore syndrome“.

There are too many good options it is difficult to choose one.

cookie whore syndrome

Read: The Cookie-Whore Syndrome: Why You are Probably Single.

How did Stan Lee and Pygmalion beat this paralysis? They had a mental picture of who they wanted to spend the rest of their lives with. Stan Lee had been drawing this red hair girl with one body and face much of his life! In his own words: “It was my idea of what a girl should be”. He had a vivid mental picture of the woman of his dreams!

My little niece drew my dream girl! Lmaoooo

Do you need the artistic skills of Stan or the sculpting skills of Pygmalion? Not necessarily. It all begins by answering this question:

What kind of woman/man will make me happy in terms of physical appearance, values, hobbies and beliefs?

Really think about this and be true to yourself. Write down the answer/s to this question.

Don’t date a fat girl and expect her to lose weight. That is really stupid to be honest.

If you can answer this question, you have taken a big step to finding the spouse of your dreams.

2. SCREENING IS THE NEXT BIG IMPORTANT STEP

Around the time Pygmalion lived, the women readily available to him were the Propoetides(daughters of Propoetus). There was a thing about them – they were incredibly immoral and disregarded Aphrodite as a divine goddess. In vengeance, Aphrodite cursed them to live the rest of their lives basically “hoe-ing”(prostituting) without shame. Now, Pygmalion after satisfying the first lesson(having a good mental picture of what he wanted) realized a “night-time accountant” wasn’t the ideal woman for him. In essence, Pygmalion screened the women he had around him armed with the mental picture of what he wanted.

Will you find your ideal love in a strip club/night club? Technically a fat No! Am I saying good datable people don’t go to the strip club? Fuck your thoughts. The point is, screen!

3. TIME FOR ACTION

Fine, Stan Lee had the idea of his dream woman, Pygmalion carved out his idea of a dream woman but one thing they didn’t do was sit at home eating fries with ketchup waiting for the god of good luck to drop their dream into their laps. One of the biggest bullshits I’ve heard my whole life is: God will bring the right person to you at the right time. The last man, God single-handedly delivered a partner to was Adam. Millions of years ago. He retired that business!

Assume responsibility it is your job to go out there and find her/him! Stan Lee took action by following through the suggestion of his cousin and actually going to meet the girl(ended up meeting his love). Imagine Stan came up with the biggest of excuses- Nah, I’m not ready yet. My teeth aren’t white enough. Excuses, excuses. There would have been no Spiderman dammit! Pygmalion threw away his fears and went ahead to offer sacrifice at Aphrodites alter. The result? He had his dream come true.

Only action drives results! The only way to find out what lies beyond imagination is to put in the effort through taking action! Don’t sit at home binging on terrible Netflix shows expecting your dream spouse to come knocking on your door asking for direction to KFC. It only happens in movies. Even if it does happen in real life, chances are 1 in a million and it won’t happen to you.

PARTING THOUGHTS

Growing up, a lot of people invest a chunk of their time into getting a degree, getting a big paying job and hitting it big financially. That isn’t a bad thing. But then, a small percentage actually invest a lot of effort into finding a good spouse which is just as vital as these pursuits.

Stan Lee almost quit his business after hitting a roadblock with poor sales and public disinterest in comics back then. To his rescue came Joan Lee who breathed fresh energy and ideas into his work.

“I told my wife, Joanie, ‘I’m going to quit.’ But she said: ‘Why not write it the way you want to write it? If it doesn’t work, the worst that’s going to happen is that they’ll fire you. And you want to quit anyway.
The result was 1961’s “Fantastic Four,” a “turning point of my life,”

Stan lee(interview with washingTon POST in 2011)

The release of “Fantastic Four” set Stan Lee on an unimaginable path to success. This changed the ball game forever. Marvel set itself apart from its competition in the 1960s through its characters who lived in the real world and dealt with real-world problems.

Stan Lee has credited his wife with inspiring him to create relatable heroes as opposed to perfect ones with wealth and charm.

Imagine what life would have been had Stan never had a mental picture of what he wanted in a woman. The story probably wouldn’t have been the same had he not screened the others and taken action. There would have been no Marvel and I basically won’t be struggling right now in a queue to get a ticket on premiere day.

And as I sit here clapping non-stop, with my heart beating so fast watching the last 30 minutes of Avengers: End Game, I am most convinced, finding a good spouse is of utmost importance.

See, go watch Avengers: Endgame. It’s absolutely fucking amazing! And I mean that in a spoiler-free spirit.

Good luck finding your Galatea or Joan. The benefits are amazing. Cheers, Dr C

Thanos and Stan Lee
RIP STAN LEE. THANK YOU FOR THE AMAZING YEARS.