Do you remember that epic moment in James Cameron’s 1997 romantic blockbuster Titanic; where a young Di Caprio’s body is ravaged by hypothermia in the ice-cold Atlantic, with both testicles shrunken and clad to his whinnie while he stares dead-eye into Kate Winslet’s tits probably thinking – I won’t see these again? When obviously there was space for two!

Spoiler alert: He died!!!!!
Better still, remember the famous El Romeo Montague who while depressed from chasing hard-to-get Rosaline meets a pretty damsel Juliet Capulet. Overwhelmed by the weirdest form of love-at-first-sight, decides in the name of love,two dead lovers make a better love story.
Seriously, a round of applause for James Cameron and William Shakespeare who probably by chance never imagined they will change the idea of love for the next millennia: one built on fantasy.
WHAT IS YOUR IDEA OF LOVE?
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In our world, love has been idealized to be the be-it-all to life. We are bombarded with love songs from crack-addicts who promise Heaven on Earth for a woman. Then we hear “Grenade” and all of a sudden we feel like Clark Kent saving the planet from a possible “Nuclear Hate Bomb”. We watch movies like Titanic and conceptualize our idea of love- a powerful emotion to cure all diseases.
THREE HARSH TRUTHS ABOUT LOVE
1. Love isn’t the answer to all of life’s problems, not even most.
In the context of relationships, many of us see love as a vaccine. So far as we are in love, we are immune to the ugly side of relationships: the hardships, fights, misunderstandings and terrible sex. Are we at fault? Well, our movies, songs, and stories all celebrate love as life’s ultimate goal- the final solution for all our pain and struggle.
In Mark Manson thought-provoking article βLove is not enough” he says,
When we believe that “all we need is love,” then we’re more likely to ignore fundamental values such as respect, humility, and commitment towards the people we care about.
mark manson
If there is one truth we must understand:Β healthy relationships (which must be the end goal) require more than emotions. Emotions are a roller coaster with unstable highs and lows.
A TRUE STORY ACT. 1
At one point in my life, my love life sucked terribly. I was a pathetic loser. Had no self-esteem, and incredibly shy. I could not score a damsel to save my life. Then as if by design, I finally fell in love. At first, I couldn’t believe my luck. She was the prettiest girl in the school! In the few days we spent together during the vacation, my sense of loneliness disappeared for a while, and as the nouveau butterflies-in-the-gut feeling subsided, I began to feel the remnants of the feeling of unworthiness. I questioned why she loved me and would bug her anytime she didn’t call. I was basically a pain in the ass. She managed to take this bullshit for 8 months and called it quits. I was back to square one. A lonely fucker with shitty self-esteem.
Somewhere in my thoughts, I thought falling in love would solve my self-esteem issues but it didn’t. It was my responsibility to work on the cracks in myself, not the duty of a lofty passionate emotion called love. Never forget, love wonβt pay your debts neither will it fix your horrible attitude. Wake the hell up!
“The problem with idealizing love is that it causes us to develop unrealistic expectations about what love actually is and what it can do for us”.
mark manson
2. Love isn’t always worth sacrificing yourself for

I bet you have sung the catchy hook of Bruno Mar’s Grenade– “…but darling I can catch a grenade for you…throw my hand on a blade for you…Go through all this pain, take a bullet straight through my brain…” I call bullshit!!
One of the self-professed aspects of falling in love is being able to go out of your comfort (unselfishly) to cater for the needs of the other even sometimes to your detriment. When feeling blue, we rationalize it is totally worth it. But then ask yourself circumspectly: what exactly am I sacrificing and is it worth it in the end?
See, I am not saying it is a terrible idea to sacrifice time, money or energy for someone you love. No! It is one of the parts of relationships that make it a wonderful venture. But then if it comes at the cost of sacrificing your self-respect, dignity and life, then that same love is really questionable.
A TRUE STORY ACT 2
I recount missing an exam to be with my girlfriend back then when she told me she had caught a cold and a headache. Being all jumpy and trying to win “Boyfriend 0f The Year” award”, she talked me out of writing the exam to buy her cold medications. Good Lord! I know you probably are shell-shocked as to why I did this. But then, people have worse stories than mine.
A healthy relationship is supposed to complement our individual identity, not damage it.
I want you to ask yourself again:Β what am I sacrificing and is it worth the sacrifice?
Read: Why Letting Go Is Damn Hard
3. There are no Happily Ever After endings

Ever read a Disney book? The Cinderellas and Snow Whites? If yes, pretty sure you are familiar with the popular βthey lived happily ever afterβ. In real life, there are no happily ever afters. Our siblings suck the hell out of us, our partners sometimes bore us to nuts. These are the realities of life. There are no perfect endings. It takes hard work to make things like love work. You donβt sit in front of a mirror applying makeup all day expecting your love life to blossom.
Love surely takes persistent work. There are bound to be problems which will only evolve into another and so on. Such is life. Quit the telenovela happy endings, it just doesnβt exist!
To end it, all, donβt be a martyr of love like Jack in Titanic. Give those props to Jesus Christ. He deserves this spot with no contention.
Have a realistic expectation of love. It is not enough.
Cheers DrC
Love indeed isnβt enough.
Wish a friend of mine had read this earlier.. Lol
Hi Bri. Great hearing from you. Yes indeed love isn’t enough. Sucks your friend didn’t get to ready this earlier but you and I aren’t gonna let that happen to other people in your life. Kindly share with your friends. Subscribe and Cheers to an amazing day. β
Soap operas are so weird, the stories are so over the top lol. I don’t really watch them. Sometimes I watch Spanish soap operas (telenovelas) even though I don’t understand a thing just because they have really hot chicks and they barely wear anything, its like soft core porno on TV hahaha!
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Nice one! Love from your heart, show with your actions but donβt loose your head!
Great work⦠Thumps up
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Good one, we need to spread the word, this should be published on every blog for the world to see
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Truth!!! We should never lose ourselves in pursuit of another, at the end of the day all we really have is ‘ourselves ‘ . This is just perfect love. Well done Amigosβ€οΈ
Truth Mercy! Love I guess is only blind to the Blind.
There are happy ever endings, they just rare. but they exist.
Thanks for your comment Brown. No Happy Endings in this blog post is metaphorical. It is describing there is no perfect Journey of Love like the way Disney gives us the picture the Hero and Heroine live happily ever after with no issues, drama etc.
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Wooow!!! First time here and i liked it is an understatement!!!
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Great read.I like how you digested the issue of love looking at it from all possible angles.
Nice piece bro . But next time buy her mentos instead of procold .
Quite a detailed breakdown of the subject matter. Thank you Dr. C for the enlightenment.
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Wooow…excellent
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You did it again!!
Nice piece
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This is a very well written article. You get counseling skills. We dey save put bucket list. Go come back come mow am
Very interesting take on love. I agree with most of the things. That’s a nice article.
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Dude. AWESOME piece. People should get a reality check like this, time and again, to nudge their train of thought to make better life decisions. I say again, AWESOME piece.
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Woooow…this so nice..i really love it..Thank you very much Dr.Charles
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